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I'd love to help you get vulnerable.
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Let's get naked.
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Hey everyone, I'm Ann.
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Welcome to the let's Get Naked podcast, where we dive deep into vulnerability.
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In this space, we'll explore what triggers us, uncover the patterns holding us back and discover how to take charge of our own growth.
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If you're ready to dig in, be vulnerable and face the tough stuff, then buckle up.
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It's time to get naked.
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On this podcast, we've shared a lot of stories, personal accounts of how people remember past events.
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Each story is one person's unique perspective, shaped by their own filters.
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It's so wild how each person experiences the same event completely different, especially within families, Like when something happens.
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Maybe it's a holiday dinner or a birthday or just a random family get-together.
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It's not just one shared experience.
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Everyone has their own personal lens through which they interpret it.
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People bring their history, emotions and past experiences to the table and suddenly the same event is a completely different reality for everyone involved.
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Take something like a family argument, for example.
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One person might see it as a small disagreement, nothing too serious, but someone else in the same conversation could be triggered by past unresolved issues.
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So they're not just hearing the words being said, they're hearing all of the history, all the unresolved tensions, all the things they didn't say before.
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Their filter is shaped by how they've been treated in the past, their relationship with the people involved and even their mood at the time.
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And the craziest part Both of these people could walk away thinking they're the one in the right, but from their own personal perspective, they're completely justified.
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It's like everyone's got their own set of emotional glasses tinted by their upbringing, past traumas and life experiences.
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Two people can be sitting in the same room looking at the same thing and yet have completely different views of it.
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It's why some people can look back on a family event and remember it as a warm, joyful occasion, while someone else might think it was cold and awkward.
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This is why family dynamics are so tricky.
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It's not even necessarily about who is right or wrong.
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It's about how those filters are shaping everyone's individual experiences of the situation.
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What one person thinks is a funny, lighthearted comment could feel like a sharp jab to someone else, depending on their own personal history.
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And when you add in generational filters, the differences between how parents and kids or grandparents and grandchildren see the world can be downright staggering.
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Family memories often collide with the perspective of time and growing up, creating this web of interpretations that only gets more complicated the older everyone gets.
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It's kind of fascinating, but also exhausting when you think about it.
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It makes you wonder how we ever come to understand each other at all, but it's also what makes family life so layered.
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The complexity of perspectives and filters is what makes our relationships rich, even if sometimes it's painful or frustrating to navigate.
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Today we're stripping it all off with my niece Creighton.
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Creighton is the oldest daughter of my brother Brennan and his wife Caitlin, who have been guests previously on the podcast.
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Caitlin, who have been guests previously on the podcast.
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Welcome to the show.
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Thank you for having me.
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Yeah, welcome.
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So I'd like to start by saying, as I've been doing this podcast, the different perspectives that I've been seeing, as other people recount stories of things that I was there for, sometimes in years where I was sober, sometimes in years where I wasn't.
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It has really opened my eyes to what I was just talking about in the intro of every event has everyone else's different take on it.
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You're looking at things from a unique perspective.
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You're looking at things through filters that come from emotions, experiences, what mood you're in that day, what age you are during that, you know, which is fascinating to me.
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So for those that don't know, creighton is the oldest of Brennan and Caitlin's kids.
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She's 19 and their other kids are 17, 14, 10.
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Yes, three oldest are girls, youngest is a boy, and they are excellent human beings.
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I have so much fun with them.
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We have such a close relationship with all of them.
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My kiddos and their kiddos are real close and it's just fun to be part of.
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But it's been really unique and interesting to listen to your dad and your mom come on and tell stories from their perspective, or cousins, or, you know, my kids or whoever comes on and tells that.
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So it's been kind of a really fun onion to peel back the layers so excited.
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It is exciting.
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Yeah.
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I think that, as people are hearing this, if it was something that you were a part of, that story and you don't remember it a certain way, keeping that in mind that it is someone else's perspective, so that you don't take it personally, Because sometimes I've heard stories where they're not, they don't paint me in the best light, which is okay, that's somebody else's you know recount of what that is.
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But if I wasn't emotionally intelligent enough to not take that personally and really get my feelings hurt everyone you know every time someone said something that doesn't paint me in a great light, I wouldn't be doing this podcast because it just keeps it just keeps coming and coming and coming, which is fine.
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So one thing that I do really want to clarify Creighton and I were talking about it last night and we were joking about the episode where I had her dad and her mom on and we started by saying how does it feel to be the one that turned your brother gay?
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And I realized after Creighton is telling me that she's sharing this podcast with a lot of different people and they call her after the fact and say what the hell is that about?
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I would like to just explain it a little bit to our listeners so that they are not wondering, like, what the hell is that about?
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When we were growing up, we were grown up, we were raised very religious and so in most organized religions they think that being gay is wrong.
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I'm not going to get into it more than that because I don't want to change the entire shift of the podcast today, but it's not acceptable.
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And so when Keith was younger, we could tell from when he was little that he was different.
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I had two excellent examples of your dad, who was very, you know, on the boy side, masculine side, and your uncle, who was, you know, definitely had different interests is the way I will say that and love them all the same.
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There's nothing different about that.
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They're unique in their own ways.
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But you know, my mom made a comment a long time ago that in our family we just you can't say anything in our family or we just run with it for from now until the end of time.
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Uh, about the comments that that Brennan would make or other things that turned him gay by razzing him or giving him a hard time, or you know that, aren't old enough to know.
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Back in that day we used to call everybody gay.
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That was a thing that we used to be able to do, and not because we thought they were homosexual.
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That's just what you call people is.
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They're gay.
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Don't be so gay, you know, whatever.
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So anyway.
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So that's the inside kind of family joke.
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Is that Brennan harassed your uncle so much that it turned him gay?
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He?
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was worried about the ladies.
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He was worried about the ladies Right?
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Exactly that's what Brennan says is I was worried.
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I wanted to make sure that I was the one getting all of the ladies.
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He was successful.
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He shouldn't worry about that.
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You've got your mom and that's plenty.
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So the other thing that ties into something that we've done previously on the podcast is that Creighton is going to do a little bit of an exit interview.
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On our first episode, amanda came on and was talking about her kiddos getting old enough, where they were at the point of moving out of their houses and at work.
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When we're done with jobs, we do exit interviews and being able to do a familial exit interview where you're talking about how your one through 18 years, you know went Exactly.
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So this is going to be a fun conversation.
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Yeah, I am too.
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I appreciate you being willing to be vulnerable and to share all of the things, because I know that that's not easy.
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But, as we've talked about previously, we understand the importance of doing that and what that brings to the listeners and them being able to ask questions in their own lives or get curious about things in their own lives or be relatable where they don't feel like they're on an island by themselves, because we have some messed up stuff in our family and, sadly, or good news, bad news, whatever, that's just what it is, but we're willing to talk about it, which I think is really powerful, and so I appreciate you coming on and doing that.
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I've led with vulnerability and everyone is like I'm in, I'll talk about this with the things, let's do it.
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So I find that to be amazing.
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I have some questions that Brennan sent in and Creighton's siblings sent in, and so I want to we'll kind of dive in with those a little bit, and then we can also just talk about other things as they come up.
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Whatever it is, let's do it.
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We're not even going to ease into anything.
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I'm just going to come.
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I know I'm so sorry, Right in the heart.
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I know, Well, this is a good one.
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So Hosey sent in and said who has had the most impact on your life thus far?
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And I think you don't have to you don't have to like just put that down to one person, but maybe if you think about different people that have had an impact on who you are and what does that look like, Like what comes to your mind when I ask that question who's the first person that sparks to your mind?
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I have a few people.
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I have a lot of good ladies in my life.
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You, my mom and emma.
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They have definitely been a driving factor.
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I mean, yeah, my dad and whoever else but you guys have definitely shown me that if you work your ass off, you can get what you want.
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Yeah, and no matter what, as long as you're happy, that's all that matters yeah we had that conversation yesterday, yeah, and you guys have always shown that do what you want to do, do what you love and don't take anything for granted.
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Do be yourself and don't worry about anybody else around you, yeah, which is excellent, because, if you, all you have to do is those things and everything else falls into place, which is is awesome.
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Okay, if you could change one thing about your life after high school, what would that be?
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oh, oh god, yikes.
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Um, I don't think I think, taking the job I took, I think this has been a lot.
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I think taking on too much while I'm still in school and stressing myself out too much?
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Yeah, because I think going to Texas was amazing.
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I mean, yeah, it sucked and it was terrible, but it taught me a lot and it made me appreciate coming home more.
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Um, but yeah, taking on too much while I'm in school, because school should be my main focus and it's not.
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Yeah, so for our listeners.
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Creighton graduated high school and then went to Texas for her first year of college and did not love that, which is is okay.
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And it's nice that you don't say that that's something that you would change, because a lot of times you look back at your life and for me, things that were the hardest for me have the most growth tied to them.
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So I look back and think I wouldn't change anything.
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You know, I agree with what you're saying about the job and the school, because the priority and making sure that that fits, but it's lovely to look back and say the hard things are actually pretty groovy, oh, the best things.
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Yeah, they help you grow the most, they show you the most things about yourself.
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And yeah, they're hard, but we can do hard things.
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Yeah, so that's awesome.
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Okay, this is oh God.
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Do you feel like you had a bad childhood?
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Not at all, okay.
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No, I think I am very blessed for the way I grew up.
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I wouldn't change a thing.
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I mean maybe my dad, but just kidding.
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No, I had a great childhood.
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My mom talked about survivor's guilt when she was on here last time and I completely feel that.
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Yeah, because everyone this isn't a bad thing.
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But I surround myself with people and I've heard their stories and my childhood sounds amazing.
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I had great parents.
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My parents have stayed together the whole time.
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I grew up on a farm, which I love it.
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It's grown my passion for agriculture.
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That's what I love to talk about.
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Got to do 4-H, I get to pay for my college by myself, which is the coolest thing ever.
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Hard work was a big thing, and so, no, I wouldn't change the way.
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I mean, yeah, working every Sunday at the house that would be cool if we didn't have to do that every Sunday, but I wouldn't change anything well, I think that stuff builds character.
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I think that builds you who you are.
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I think you being able to do things and show you're.
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You're capable, learning the things you know, know.
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I've spent my last, however many years going up and spending as much time with Creighton and her family, watching them grow up, and I will tell you that on the farm that they live on, on the property that they live on, a lot of capable things are being taught a lot of stuff that would blow your mind, and I look at the differences between your family and other kiddos and it makes me very proud of your mom and your dad because I think they have done hard things in teaching you guys a lot of stuff.
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Your mom always wanted to be a mom and I commend that.
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That was something that she puts her heart and soul into, and I've watched her with some of her finest parenting moments, where I'm so proud that she's willing to do the hard, unpopular thing, because that's where kids really grow to be the most capable.
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I don't remember if it was Adeline or if it was John who, when we went to we went to the high school and we took that big mower like the mower driving and got it off the trailer for something.
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And when we were done, one of the kids that was like 10 or like yeah, adeline put it right in the trailer.
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Yeah, adeline was like 11 years old or 12 years old or whatever gets on that riding mower, one of these huge things, not like a little John Deere, like it's a big mower, and just drives it right back up on the trailer.
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In a situation where it was dark you probably could have used a spotter Probably not safe, like all of the things just drove it up there like a boss and I thought that's what I'm talking about.
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She's not afraid of anything.
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She's not afraid of anything but I think that will set you guys up really well in life, and it's fun to me to have a front row seat to be able to watch what you do.
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I watch how you are a light to other people around you and being able to really help them be their best selves right, which is what I aspire to do as well, because I think that that's really important to encourage other people to do that and then just lead by example by being your authentic self, being vulnerable and willing to really show everyone the amazing awesomeness that you are.
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So I absolutely love that now.
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I don't think you had a bad childhood either, but I thought that was a an interesting question that that I was fielding from your family let's see.
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Do you feel that your parents put too much responsibility on you throughout your childhood?
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Uh, and be honest, this is, this is a.
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You're not, and be honest.
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You're not going to hurt their feelings.
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You're not going to hurt their feelings.
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I think sometimes, yeah, I think I felt like a mom too much.
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Dang it.
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I know I'm sorry.
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I'm sorry it's okay, it's okay, it's okay honey.
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My siblings are my babies and I think it's been hard separating myself from that because as I get older, I have resentment towards them because I've taken a lot of money to help them.
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So I think that's hard, but other than that, no, I wouldn't change it.
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Is it hard for you, as you are getting to be an adult and moving on, to leave them behind a little bit?
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Yeah because you did have such a close relationship with them in that way.
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Yeah, because you were kind of a fill-in mom for stuff, because you were the bigger one, yeah, yeah.
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So so for the listeners, brendan and caitlin, have they lead big lives I mean yeah they do.
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Yeah, I look at the stuff from Some people.
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Look at the lives that your Uncle Cameron and I lead and think that we're absolutely nuts.
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And I look at the same thing for your parents and it's just, we're constantly going.
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It's on the go, on the move, going here, going there, all of the things, and to watch and talk to the kids as they've gotten older.
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It's, it's a different.
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It's a different perspective, for sure.
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It's a different perspective for sure, but you're able to kind of see that, growing up too, that that's, your parents are just human beings.
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We were talking about that this morning.
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When you're younger, you see your parents as this like larger than life thing, and then, as you get older and you realize they're just doing the best that they can, they're just the same human beings like you are, who have much bigger responsibilities and are still trying to live their life and have a good time and raise the best kids that they can and make enough money to keep food on the table and do all of the responsibilities.
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And so it is.
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It's it's hard to be able to do that.
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Yeah, god got you on question three already, oh, my god.
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No, I was question four, so sorry you made it to question.
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I don't want.
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Yeah, thank god you made it to question four.
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Uh, let's see what qualities have you learned from each of your parents?
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And here's a fun one that I like to do, and I did this with.
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Wiley too.
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Give me a good one, like what is a quality that you took in from each of them?
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give me a good one and a bad one, because I think obviously they're not trying to intentionally instill bad yeah habits or bad, you know whatever, but we still do learn good and bad things, things that you're like I definitely want to instill this, and you know going forward in my kiddos and things that you wouldn't.
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So what's a good one and a bad one for?
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each of them, I think for my dad, I mean.
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This can be good and bad.
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My honesty I am a little too honest sometimes, but I love it.
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I would never.
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I wouldn't change that.
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I will say there is not too honest just so you know.
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There might be like delivery stuff.
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That's my problem.
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My delivery is, but then those are not maybe not your people, because I'm very honest as well, and I only am coming from a good place when I say that, but it does sometimes sound like yeah, which is why I always say I'm not for everyone, which?
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is okay.
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Exactly, but yes, the honest is.
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I don't think it's too honest but honesty is a good one from my mom.
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She's very caring.
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My mom's always been very caring and she always wants to take care of other people, so I think that's a good one that I got from her.
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Oh, a bad one from my dad, my smart assness I'm a smart ass through and through.
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That is definitely from my dad.
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A bad one from my mom.
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I love you, mom.
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Um, people pleasing.
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Yeah, it's a bad one.
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I mean it can be good, but it is.
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It drags you down.
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I don't think it can be good and I'll tell you why.
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I think I think in that way people pleasing because we we disregard our own needs and wants before someone else, but not even for a good thing, because when you really pull apart people-pleasing why we're doing it, you're doing things that maybe aren't even things that they want or need you to do and disappointing yourself in the process.
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The trade-off isn't good.
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You know, it's something completely different.
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If I don't know, the trade-off isn't good for the people-pleasing thing.
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So sorry, caitlin, that's a bad one I got for me.
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Mom, love you.
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That's all right.
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Though, that's all right, she can handle it.
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She can handle it okay.
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Uh, let's see, do you?
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feel like your dad was absent too much while he was still farming.
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No, really, I mean, I guess sometimes, but I don't really remember it.
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Okay, I remember going out and hanging on the tractor and he said that I talked too much, which I don't know what he's talking about.
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I never talk too much, but I had to catch up all the time, him and I.
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He apparently does not enjoy when I talk all the time in the tractor, but that's what I remember.
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I don't remember him not being there.
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I mean sometimes, yeah, when I was at my sporting events or whatever.
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I'm not athletic, so I didn't really care, I just wanted to be done.
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So no, I don't think so I don't remember it.
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I would say busy doing other things.
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Okay, all right.
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Right on your off the hook on that one Not yet.
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Did you ever feel like your parents didn't have enough money to get you the things you wanted or wanted to do?
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No, I, like your parents, didn't have enough money to get you the things you wanted or wanted to do.
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Uh, no, I think I just didn't ask.
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I think that I felt, no, I know that I was like this is a burden and I started working when I was 13 so I was like I'll just get it myself.
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Yeah, I'll just do it.